I am a counselor. I am also a client of counseling, a friend of people who have thought about going to counseling, the person who answers the phone at the office sometimes, the classroom parent ... and many other roles. In these roles, I have become very familiar with the questions and concerns that are common about going to counseling. I also know that often these questions and fears can stand in the way of actually getting the help we need to move forward. So, in this post, I will lay out some of the most common fears and questions I have had personally, or heard from others.
Oh, the life of the perfectionist - the daily struggle with all of the emotions and messages that accompany this trait, and the impacts on performance can be an extreme weight to carry.
Confession time: I (April) am a perfectionist.
Most of us know the scene in the movie The Wizard of Oz where Dorothy clicks her ruby slippers together three times and says with all of her heart, "There's no place like home. There's no place like home." Then she is magically transported back to the Kansas farmhouse she has so desperately missed.
Everything in our world works with an ebb and flow - times of moving out and times of pulling in. We see it in our seasons, cycles of plant life, our breath, cycles of wake and rest.
Ebb and flow are critical to the function of our lives, our world.
One of the questions I hear most often:
"Does my child have something 'real' like a learning disorder? Or is he just anxious/depressed/ stressed?"
What if we could think about it a different way? If a child is struggling with academic performance, any reason for the struggle is real.